A Better Grand Daughter
Girl, Women, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Wife, Friend, Colleague – Me, yes, that’s me.
Among all these is one more role that I play day in and day out but which goes unnoticed – that of a Granddaughter. Remember! Okay now you do. We when born were apple of everyone’s eyes and more so of our both set of grandparents. All that pampering and unconditional love is what filled our childhood and made those summer holidays all the more special. Waiting for the break so we can go to their palatial homes with big verandas and gardens or fields full of mango and guava trees, breakfast of fresh milk, desi ghee paranthas and homemade butter and yes we never gained weight. Yum!!!!!! I wish I could eat even a single meal like that without spending days repenting the sin and eating boiled veggies.
Those were the days when every demand of ours was fulfilled by them irrespective of how unreasonable it may be. In my case my paternal grandparents were so happy to have me that for my first birthday I had a grand party with the entire city invited. And since my maternal grandparents lived in a small town they will source Maggie from the nearest city as if they knew even all those years ago that our generation will end up growing on Maggie as part of our staple food.
But now they are old. Infact now I only have one grandma and no grandpa and she is so old that every time I leave her I don’t know whether I will see her again or not. And now it’s my turn to be not the better but the best granddaughter in the world. I did all I could for my grandfather till he left us when I was 16 and I was the last family member he talked to. More than a decade later I still miss him and think that I could have done a few things differently and in a better way. Since I was a kid at that time I used to get angry and irritated by some of his talks and demands and concerns and I sooo wish that I can go back in time and be a better granddaughter.
But I still have a chance and I have a grandmother who is quite old and age related ailments combined with the need to leave her house where she spent her life and live with us in a flat with limited space has made her cranky and unreasonable and sometimes impossible to deal with. She lives with my parents and I don’t visit them often as I live in a different city. But whenever I visit I try to be as patient with her as possible. With my mom about to turn 60 in a few months it getting difficult for her also to fulfill her every demand and take care of her like earlier.
And here comes the part where I have to be a better granddaughter – I may bring her here to continue her treatment and take care of her. This will mean a lot of headache as she is a very demanding person who can dismiss everyone else as stupid and useless and cunning even if they mean good for her. Her food habits means that at every meal time a dish different than ours needs to be cooked for her, she will need her own room and someone at her beck and call 24X7. She will be taunting and rude most of the time accusing us of all sort of plotting and planning against her, will crib about each and everything in the home, ridicule our clothes and lifestyle etc. etc. In short she will do everything that can people their age do and which irritates us to no limit but I have promised myself to be a better granddaughter. After all as a kid I have bothered this same grandmother with endless and ridiculous demands and she has catered to every one of those without as much as batting an eyelid.
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