Change Begins From Within
Hello Athenas! Our nation’s 67th Independence Day has come and gone and some of the articles on this blog have made me pause to think. Now we all know that crimes against women are becoming more frequent and more heinous, which is a sad fact indeed, but we have harped on it often enough. So what can be done to bring about change? Well, we need look no further than our own inner selves. Don’t catch my drift? Read on…
We ladies have proven ourselves to be equal to, and sometimes better than men in almost all walks of life. Still, age-old stereotyped beliefs about what can be considered acceptable behavior for a woman dominates the Indian mindset. No, I’m not accusing only the men. Wake up, ladies, for we’re as guilty of watering this particular weed and allowing it to grow as the men.
India is called the land where there’s unity in diversity. Now we need to ask ourselves if this holds true for every Indian. Sure, when a man has a problem, the entire male community goes up in arms for him. I’m sorry to say, dear ladies, that the same is not the case for women. Even within the fabric of family, we women are finding it hard to stand united. Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law can never seem to see eye to eye on most occasions. And of course, our entertainment media has been exploiting this for decades now (why else would saas-bahu soap operas be so popular even in this digital age?). Why is it that, when we see a woman being harassed on the road by a man or a group of men, our first instinct is to walk away rather than go to the lady’s rescue? The answer, dear ladies, is that we are more adept at passing the buck to someone else than taking the responsibility on ourselves.
Our blogger Mira has suggested educating the men in our families from an early age on what constitutes appropriate behavior towards women. The same holds true for women as well. Here, I’m not talking about behavior, but about how we women perceive ourselves.
We’re the givers of life. We’re princesses, angels and goddesses and deserve to be treated as such. This is the attitude we need to teach women right from early infancy. WE ARE NOT VICTIMS! Please remember that you’re a victim only as long as you ALLOW yourself to be victimized. The day you decide to stand up for yourself and fight back, your attackers will run for cover. There’s no need to expect the world to change. It’s we who need to change: change our thinking, give up outdated stereotypes and transform ourselves into strong, self-reliant ladies who can face any challenge and overcome any obstacle thrown in our way.
It’s us who need to change, not them. Because, dear Athenas, when we change, the rest of the world will have no choice but to follow suit.