What Pulls Us Down????

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What Pulls Us Down????

We women are great at multi tasking, we can pull off major feats with ease, handle kids, the home and our jobs but still we are called the weaker sex. Is it only because we are physically weak? I don’t believe that we are actually that weak, I mean if we can give birth to kids, then no one can say that we are the softer sex.

So what is that makes us weak????? Now, let’s not always blame the men, our society and surroundings. For once let’s look deep inside OURSELVES. What do you do whenever you have been hit with a set of problems? I know most of you will say you think of a way out but then that is just a politically correct answer. I can guarantee that most of us would have the first thought and that would be “Why me? What have I done for me to have such a horrible life?” and so on and so forth. As women we tend to sit in a corner, shed some tears and then commit the biggest mistake which is loathe ourselves with SELF PITY.

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So, what pulls us down? Very simple, the answer is Self Pity. My father didn’t let me study so I am an illiterate, my brother used to beat me so I am used to it, what can we do we are helpless women, my husband doesn’t give me money so there is nothing that I can do, I have to get permission from mother my in law otherwise I cannot go to visit my mother, the list will go on and on and on. If you don’t want it and don’t work for it nothing will come your way. Even if an infant wants milk, she will not get it unless she cries.

Stop sitting around sulking, feeling sorry for yourself. When you sit around like that all you do is waste time and become a lazy person. Where there is a will, there is a way; this saying surely is true and if it’s true then the first thing we ladies need to do is get out of the self pity mode. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start feeling good about yourself. You don’t have to break rules and fight and create a scene to get what you want. Smart work, hard work, focus towards your goal, balance out your life and your responsibilities and what you want, and strive for it and I am sure you will get it.

Susan is an old lady who is 70 years old. She came out of her home to find her son who was under the car fixing it, stuck under the car. Somehow the jack had slipped and the entire weight of the car was on him. She didn’t think twice, she just ran and lifted the car. She saved her son that day. Science has proved that she was not physically strong enough to lift the car but she did. No she is not a reincarnation of super girl, but then she did it. She didn’t think, Oh! I am old, how can I do it? She just wanted to save her son so bad that she succeeded.

Kamala was not sent to school when she was a kid but at 35 she is maid and she knows to write her name and can manage to read movie posters. It was her interest to learn and she pestered the kids in her land lady’s house to teach her.

Fellow Athenas, change has begun. It’s happening in a lot of places, in television shows. In schools, in college etc but change is not going to be wholesome unless it comes from within YOU.

 Athena Visheshta

Want to make the women folk lead a better life, be part of the change try Be The ChangeChange Begins From Within and A Butterflys Dream – Fly High

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17 Responses

  1. Saru Singhal says:

    This line is so true, ‘commit the biggest mistake which is loathe ourselves with SELF PITY’ And your post reminds me of these opening lines I wrote months back…

    “Every week I read many stories on rapes, female infanticide and domestic violence. We vent out our anger and emotions so heavily that we almost present women as a weaker being. Why don’t we write more about the strength of women and glorify her?”

    Let’s all be a part of this change and thanks for linking my poem. It’s feels great to be acknowledged by friends.

    • shee_shee12345 says:

      Check out tomorrows post as well, its not just the poem. I like your work and feel that you are trying to do the same thing as us. Point well made why talk about the weakness and not the strength.

  2. lalitha says:

    there is always an inner dormant fighting spirit in women which we women only have to realize and bring it out for our own good. making the best out of the worst is what we are good at and every woman should know this.

    • shee_shee12345 says:

      100% true and we know it too sometimes we just caught up with some important and many useless things that we forget about us and our strengths.

  3. Sakshi Nanda says:

    “So, what pulls us down? Very simple, the answer is Self Pity. ” – VERY TRUE. We do love going into victim-mode, ready to feel like an over-burdened and totally-wronged martyr. I am amazed that I have finally met ONE other person who thinks like I do. NONE agree with me that wallowing in self-pity does more harm than good.

  4. Harsha says:

    Change is the only thing Constant and we must always strive to change for the Good..The Women in the society must know their importance and should rise up above all odds..

    • shee_shee12345 says:

      Till there are supportive bloggers like you I am sure we women will be able to rise above the odds and bring along many more along with us.

  5. Indrani says:

    Very motivating and inspiring.
    I like how you take such important facts and present them in simple manner.
    Great read.

  6. Diana says:

    Self-pity is far more dangerous than any life-threatening illness… It’s insidious and slowly destroys the spirit, without which our existence is shallow.
    So every time we’re confronted by a problem or obstacle, instead of lying down and thinking it’s the end of the world, let’s stand up and face the trouble head-on. Then just see what happens. No one can take advantage of us and get away with it if the fighting spirit within us is strong and sure.

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