Open Your Eyes, You’ll Find The Way Out
Domestic violence and physical Abuse! While few women have courageously and successfully stood up against this there are majority of them who are yet to find a solution. But sadly this majority is those women who do not want a solution, why? Because they have ACCEPTED IT as a part of marriage and have learnt to adjust to their occasional violent outbursts of their husbands. They believe that this is minor aberration in the otherwise perfect husband.
The reasons for their adaptation are plenty starting from upbringing, security of marriage, misconstrued idea of respect, family compulsion and social status and so on and so forth. Yet the one age old reason which reigns supreme is LOVE.
Dear Ladies if you truly love your husband instead of tolerating and forgiving his behaviour you should be rectifying it. Loving your husband should not be at the cost of your self-respect, because physical abuse of any kind can do a severe damage to your morale.
Keeping silent can lead to disastrous repercussions in the long run as what begins as occasional will move on to quite often and before you realize it will become a daily affair. You will have no one to blame but yourself as you have been equal partner in crime by making yourself a convenient outlet for your husband’s outbursts.
So wake up and curb it before its toooooooooooo late. There is always a ray of hope. As usual it all begins with attitude which is the tonic for your actions.
First and foremost there is no need to have a sense of obligation towards your husband. If your husband is taking care of home, family and providing all needs and indulgences remember you are the one who made his house a home, gave him a family to pamper and much needed emotional security which is more important than financial security. So why should you bear the brunt of his violence. Only if you realize yourself worth you can make others including your husband realize your worth.
Secondly you should be assertive in saying no to physical abuse and put a permanent full stop to it. Crying and pleading never helps and is a sign of weakness. If serious talking fails try the silent treatment. If you allow your husband to cover a bruise with a kiss then remember that you are only a toy in his hands with which he plays at his own will.
Physical and emotional detachment for a while drives a strong message. It’s tough and if you feel you cannot handle it alone then don’t hesitate to seek help and cooperation from a supportive family member or members. Do your duties, infact make yourself more indispensible to your husband and household but be completely stoic towards your husband. Nothing is more frustrating for a man than an unresponsive wife as he is also emotionally insecure and in his anger and frustration if he flings the dinner plate then it’s okay even if you fling it back with more anger and force. (The choice is yours.)
Ultimately the point is your husband should learn to take you seriously, be sensitive to your feelings and apart from loving you should also respect you for the person you are.
Every problem has a solution if you are determined to find it. The battle is half won when you Open your eyes to it, as you’ll find the way out.
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