Who’s To Blame?
Get ready for another shocking psychic revelation coming – they are OUR fathers, brothers, husbands and friends……………. Shocked??? I told you it’s shocking but it’s the TRUTH. Are you wondering that how is it possible and I have gone crazy to blame your father/ brother/ husband for such a heinous crime.
And now let ME blame you in return that they do this and get away with it because of YOU. Cool down, cool down and answer a few questions before trying to find me and chop me to pieces. When your father told you not to play hockey or football coz you are a girl what did you do? When your brother was being treated like a royalty and you were supposed to serve him while he was watching TV what did you do? Who told her kids that if their father comes home drunk and hits you then it’s no big deal and he should be forgiven? Who fed their kids with the notion that girls are a burden who should be married off and ALL COSTS (read huge dowry) and boys are a blank cheque which will be encashed at the time of their marriage? Who let their male friends and colleagues crack double meaning jokes and get away with it saying that boys will be boys?
The answer to all these and many more is YOU. As a mother, daughter, sister or friend you have always told them that it’s OKAY to treat a female or ANY female for that matter as an object of your gratification be it physical, emotional or sexual. Now I am going to change this YOU to US and share the blame as at one point or the other, to some extent or the other I have done the same too. So what if I didn’t take it lying down when my brother tried to hit me but I did allow him to escort me anywhere and everywhere even though he was a good many years younger to me.
The point here is that at some point of time in some way or the other we have put the notion in their heads that they are superior for they are THE MAN and we are inferior as we are the bechari, abla nari who needs to be protected from the bad world out there ready to chew us alive. But that’s how our society is, right?
Society is just like a government, for the people, by the people and of the people. The standards of the society reflect what we have taught our kids over a period of years. If today you feel scared when your daughter steps out it is because somewhere in the past you let a incident of eve teasing go unnoticed or even gave your son the idea that it’s OKAY to tease a girl.
Ignoring something thinking it to be a petty issue doesn’t kill it but makes it grow into a monster that we reared and is now ready to eat us. When it’s US who are responsible for this then isn’t it our duty to kill this monster and make this society safe for us and our daughters? And for our fathers, sons and husbands also so that tomorrow someone else’s daughter can’t point a finger towards them for such an act which can land them in jail?
Please do tell me your take on this so we can and we will together take one step at a time and live in piece while our daughters and sisters are out dealing with this BIG BAD world which is supposed to be a BIG BEAUTIFUL world full of opportunities for them.