YOU ARE THE KEY TO YOUR CHILD’S CONFIDENCE
Confidence plays a major role in carving the success of a person be it in personal, student or professional life. In the personal front a confident person has the inner strength to face the challenges of life and the courage to stand up to people without being cowed down. There are students who though are intelligent and talented are unable to showcase their skills due to low confidence. At times they are also easily bullied by other students. Finally today we are aware that confidence level is one of the factors why a number of graduates are not able to move ahead and become successful professionals. Though they are bright they find it difficult to put forward their ideas boldly and once again are prone to being dominated by peers.
Confidence building should begin right from a young age but before that how do we know that our child is lacking in confidence?
Children are low in confidence when
- They are extremely self conscious.
- Use their hands a lot while communicating.
- Go about in circles with their words and lack clarity in speech.
- Hesitant to speak openly and share their opinions.
Let us look at a few reasons for this and try tackling these problems.
- RIGID ENVIRONMENT AT HOME
Parents should know the difference between disciplining a child and curbing the child’s freedom to do anything. Some parents tend to monitor and direct every activity of the child(this way not that way), eat like this, sit like this, no talking while eating and this automatically affects the confidence of the child.
Parents should teach their kids to do things, encourage and give an opportunity to do by themselves and not put restrictions on the child’s personal and comfortable preferences.
- SIBLING ISSUES
Most of you might be familiar with the famous “Elder ones are shy and timid while younger ones are bold and outgoing”. In fact the elder ones who till recently have enjoyed the status of being the only and pampered child are expected to mature overnight and hence feel neglected as younger ones hog more limelight.
Parents should avoid comparing or favoritism as it has an adverse effect on the child. They should boost the elder one’s confidence by giving independent tasks and ask them to be a role model for their younger sibling.
- IN BUILT COMPLEXES
There are many children who have complex because of their looks, complexion , dress or family background.
They should be taught to accept reality in a positive manner and concentrate more on advantages to overshadow their disadvantages.
- PARENTS BEING MOUTH PIECE OF CHILD
Parents knowingly or unknowingly tend to speak on behalf of their kids be it at school, family functions or even at home.
They should encourage the child to speak, voice opinions which builds communication skills .
- FEAR OF CRITICISM OR REJECTION
Elders should not criticize openly or dismiss casually what the child says. They should first acknowledge and appreciate the child’s view and if wrong correct by explaining. This will get rid the fear factor in the child and they should also be taught to accept criticism not get deterred by it but work towards improving.
Finally parents should lead by example and be effective role models by projecting themselves as confident and courageous individuals. Today there are various classes for personality development, concentration improvement, confidence building etc. but I believe that learning begins at home and parents are the first teachers and that is why dear parents YOU ARE THE KEY TO YOUR CHILD’S CONFIDENCE.